All people in your relationship deserve to have a sense of satisfaction with it’s sexual and physical intimacy.

Physical and sexual intimacy is another place where our relational cycles can show up. When there is distance in the bedroom, it’s rarely just about sex—it’s about the safety of the bond. I help you decode the fears and vulnerabilities that create physical distance, transforming distance or anxiety into true, secure connection.

There’s not a right or wrong way to do sex (as long as it’s consensual). Sex means different things to different people, and may meet one partner’s needs differently than another’s. For many people, physical intimacy is complicated by sensory processing differences, neurodivergent needs, or echoes of past trauma. We work to build a sexual language that honors your unique neurobiology and creates a sanctuary of safety for every body in the relationship. We can talk about your goals, your needs and desires, and how to create a sexually and physically intimate relationship that is satisfying and connecting.

Your concerns or unhappiness with your relationship’s physical and sexual intimacy are always welcome in therapy with me.

It is not uncommon that people may avoid discussing this, even in couples and marriage therapy, or think that a sex therapist is the only therapist to address these issues with. However, for many common issues around sexuality and physical intimacy, I am well experienced and competent in supporting clients to those goals.

It’s important to know, however, that I am not a certified sex therapist, and there are some sexual issues that are best addressed with a certified sex therapist, who will have additional, highly specialized training and experience in those issues. I am always happy to help you determine if your sexual concerns are within my scope of expertise.

Common themes that come up around sex and physical intimacy in couples therapy

Differences in desire and libido

sense of rejection

difficulty creating time or space for physical and sexual intimacy

insecurity about attractiveness or being desired

sense of pressure or resentment

impact of gender messages on relationship to sexuality

Poor communication skills regarding sexual and physical needs

sense of shame or guilt for having sexual needs